Reader,
One of the most important things we can do in our coaching is constantly reflect and try to consider the impact we’re making. Recently, I have been reflecting on moments, (particularly in games) where I have got it right, and some, where I have got it wrong.
Good reflection could include thinking about our own performance, the interventions we make (or don’t make), the plans we create (and how much of that plan we deliver on), how adaptable we are in our approach, our own behaviour, or how we try to support performance from our players at the right moment.
I believe there are several key attributes that make a great coach.
Self-awareness, empathy, curiosity and communication are probably my top four when it comes to the ‘how’ of coaching. I also believe in setting high standards for my teams and the players I work with. Of course, domain knowledge and expertise in our chosen sport is critical, without that, there is perhaps a limitation to your impact (although Ted Lasso might disagree!).
As a player, I was lucky to have some really well-meaning volunteer coaches, or teachers who did their best, but aside from one or two along the way, very few were experts who I remember as strongly influencing me as a player.
However, when it comes to great teachers, I did have one who was particularly memorable and his approach has always stuck with me.
His name was Mr. Lockyer, he was an avid sportsman and a children’s author, he had high standards and on day one of entering his classroom as a kid, he set a high bar, demanding standards of us, but in turn rewarding us for effort and performance, usually in the form of allowing us to go and play more sport outside!
Most importantly, he connected with the class, a mix of boys and girls all around 10 & 11 years old in different ways. Friends I still know from primary school also still rate him as one of the best we had.
That blend of standards, demands, striving for excellence, enjoying rewards and building trust made him memorable, and I think we need to be mindful of how our players will remember us.
Three things to consider
- How often do you make time to reflect on your practice? Whether it’s on the drive home, with a coaching colleague, making some notes or just sharing coaching stories, reflection and discussion can be a great catalyst to improve your coaching.
- How do you connect with your players? What strategies are you really purposeful and deliberate with when you’re delivering a session? Whether it’s a video analysis session, on the grass or a pre-match talk, we have to connect.
- If asked, consider how your players would describe you? What personal qualities do you have that you can leverage to be the best version of yourself? All coaches will deliver differently, but authenticity is essential to build trust. Leaving a legacy with players (and in particular young people) is a privilege, so don’t forget the position we find ourselves in.
One thing for you to try this week.
Consider asking your players for feedback. Whether it’s anonymous or open, I know this is a tactic of top clubs to develop their coaches.
Seek feedback from the players around areas you think might be blind spots or development areas. Keep the questions clear and concise and consider how you can action areas of improvement or build on positive feedback.
One critical resource on the topic.
Check out this fantastic article on the value of self-reflection from talent & coach development expert, Nick Levett.